Have you ever sat and thought about who you are? Who you really are? What makes us who we are? Is it our family or our friends; is it the place we grew up? Is it the things we said or did what about the things we didn't say or didn't do?

I can't say that no one has ever thought about being someone else. Wishing they could change just one little thing about themselves. Change their weight, their height, wishing they could change one little detail.

We wish we could be brave to face our fears. We wish we had courage to stand up to those who take advantage of us. What do we do, we spend our whole lives wishing, but wishing for what? We can spend our whole lives saying the words "I wish". But what does it mean. What if wishes could come true? Would it be what you really wanted? Would it be better to be just that little bit taller, or that little bit thinner? 

I have seen many things in my life. I have gone through many transformations. Is this normal, I would like to think so.  But, what is it like to be me? I couldn't tell you. What is it like to be you? I wouldn't know, I can honestly say I probably wouldn't want to know. Not that it is a mean thing to say, but who wants to be anybody else. Why can't we be happy with who we are? Are you not happy with yourself, and then change it. Don't sit around wishing that you could do something else. The world gets no where on wishes. They are make believe, created to give us fantasy, give us hope, give us something to strive for.

Is there anything wrong with wishing, I guess not? Maybe it depends on what you are wishing for. I can sit here and say all this, I can say stop wishing your life away!

The power to change is only up to you. No one can tell you who you are, it is only up to ourselves to strive to be who we want to be. It is up to ourselves to define what we are about, our beliefs, our friends, where we work, where we chose to live. It is all up to you! No one else!

Now, what brought all this on? I have no idea. I have no clue what will pop into my scatter brain at any given moment. That is what I love about myself. I love that I can be myself. I have learned to say no, tell someone that I don't like something just to try and be their friend, and try to gain acceptance. We grow up trying to make everyone like us and accept us. We try to be what someone wants us to be. We change to get the attention of a cute guy or girl. Why do we do this? Who knows, it's what some of us do. I can say I use to be like that. I despised that person, I really did.

This brings me to the word Beauty. What is beauty? Is it the flawless skin we try and achieve? Is it the perfect body we kill ourselves to have? No, it's not. It is the uniqueness that is who we are. The little idiosyncrasies that make us who we are, some of us will be a little shorter, or a little taller, yes some of us will be a little chubbier, or even a little skinnier. Does this make us beautiful? You bet it does. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. What would this world be if we were all the same? Would you really want to be the exact same as someone else? Have their same thoughts, and ideals and beliefs? Would you be happy with being a clone?  I know I certainly wouldn't.

Take a good look in the mirror next time you pass one. Look at who you are, really look at who you are. Tell yourself, "I am beautiful; I do not need anyone to justify who I am, or the way I look". I say this because I lived a life of being told what to do. What to do, how I should look, I was just a little to fat, I was a little short.

Beauty is NOT only skin deep. Cliché, I know, but, who really cares, right? Beauty is who we are, how we present ourselves. I have watched many people nearly kill themselves to in their quest for being beautiful. But, really what does it get you, more attention? Yeah, I know what is coming!

"Susie, you are pretty, how can you say that".

Honestly, I can't say it. I will be the first to admit that half the time I’m putting on a fake smile and only have half the self confidence that I would like to believe that I have. Some people will think I'm pretty, some people won't. Will I care? Probably, will I lose sleep over it? No!

Beauty, again what is beauty? Do we want a definition? Ok, I can give you one!

Dictionary.com says that beauty is: the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind, whether arising from sensory manifestations (as shape, color, sound, etc.), a meaningful design or pattern, or something else (as a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest).

The last part is what I'm going to emphasize on right now. As a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest! What does that say? To me, have a little faith in yourself. We are given the tools to make each and every one of ourselves great. Nobody even strives to reach this potential.

So, what does this have to deal with beauty? In my long winded response, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That beholder must first and foremost, be ourselves. Do not strive to be like the new model on the latest magazine. Do however, strive to be you! That's right, you! I can guarantee that someone out there will love you for it and like you that little bit better for just being yourself.