"Love is Destroyed when there's no element of Justice." 

This is a quote I have to keep in mind.  I have a tendency to get into relationships that are one-sided.  There's too much giving and not enough receiving.  

I try too hard to please or I have a fear that someone won't like me.  I'm not honest and don't tell when my feelings are hurt. 

All of the above is a setup for anger and anxiety or self-pity.  

My love for myself disappears when my relationships aren't balanced. 

I am beginning to learn that I am not a "Victim".  I'm a "Volunteer".  I'm not a doormat.  I'm wall-to-wall carpeting.

Does this all boil down to the fact that it's easier for me to give than it is to receive?  I think so.  After all, I don't want to "owe" somebody something.

Growing up is very hard to do.